Finding the courage to face your issues and resolve them is the most valuable thing you’ll ever do
No matter how stressed or stuck you might be feeling right now, you can find your way to a brighter future.
Finding the courage to face your issues and resolve them is the most valuable thing you’ll ever do
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My clients seek help with a variety of issues… do any of these resonate with you?
- You’ve become best friends with the mask you hide behind, the one that protects you from other people’s judgement and ensures that the only critical voice you hear is your own. Your courage and determination keeps you going, but it's a challenge to find and truly express yourself. You’re looking for help to say the things you’re too afraid to say – even to your closest friends and confidantes.
- You are a key member of a corporate team and you don’t feel able to be absent from work while you recover from a personal trauma such as a bereavement or relationship breakup – but you know you aren’t coping with the pressures of work and you’re finding it hard to concentrate – you want intensive support to help you recover without jeopardising your job.
- You have thought patterns that are keeping you stuck because you react in an unhelpful way every time a particular situation comes up and even though you want to change, you can’t seem to stop these patterns influencing your behaviour.
- You are suffering from any of what I call the Five Pain Points of Unresolved Trauma - Panic attacks, Procrastination, Perfectionism, People Pleasing or Phobias - these will be really interfering with the quality of your life and the lives of the people around you.
- You’re smart and resourceful and have a generous and compassionate heart which makes you a blessing to everyone who knows you, but whatever’s going on in your life right now has floored you and you can’t seem to work out how to handle it.
- You have an amazing career or run a super successful business but when it comes to your love life, you feel like a failure. You just can’t seem to find that special someone to share your life with and you are beginning to feel jaded and cynical.
- You are looking for an executive coach to support you and help you develop in your professional role, but can see the benefit of engaging someone who also has the therapeutic skills to help you if there are any personal issues in your life that may be influencing your performance.
- You wonder if you have Imposter Syndrome as you often feel like a fraud and you’re living in fear of being found out.
- Your entire life changed in an instant: what once felt like a settled and happy life, or a clear path towards success and security, was yanked away from you. It's been hard for you to try and imagine what your purpose is now, and even harder to move forward with it. You’re looking for someone who understands that nothing is the same as it used to be... the trauma you’ve been through in your life has changed you, and not for the better. You’re constantly afraid and worry about what’s round the next corner, and this fear is stopping you from being fully present with yourself, and those you love.
- You’re at a crossroads in your life and not sure which way to go... perhaps there’s a big decision to be made, or you’ve lost your sense of direction or purpose after a big life change like retirement, redundancy, divorce or coping with the fact that your children have grown up and gone away.
- You have experienced upsetting situations in the past, or are enduring prolonged stressful situations at the moment, and you just bury or deny your feelings and keep plodding on. You tell yourself you are fine and just need to try harder – as this can seem the only way through, especially if you have children, colleagues or other people relying on you. Your relationships may be suffering, and you may have turned to alcohol or retail therapy for comfort or distraction.
"How does one become a butterfly?" she asked. "You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar."
Who are my clients?
The majority of my adult clients are women and include senior executives, business owners, senior health professionals, and high profile individuals in the public eye, seeking absolute discretion (entertainers, sportspeople, politicians and media personalities), or they may be the spouses/partners of such individuals.
Often, in the eyes of the world, they seem smart and successful. But inside many of them secretly feel that they are broken or not good enough, or they find it very hard to relax and enjoy their success. This can be due to a life experience or a trauma in their past – such as a bereavement, or a relationship ending. Or they may currently be experiencing a distressing or challenging situation – such as serious illness or losing their job. But sometimes it’s simply the recognition that, up till now, they’ve been living someone else’s dreams or fulfilling someone else’s expectations, and now it’s time to find out who they really are.
Many of the women I work with are battling issues like depression, anxiety or low self-esteem. They are tired of feeling sad, exhausted, lost or overwhelmed. They often feel that they can’t cope with life, or the demands of their job, or caring for their family. They wonder how long they can continue to hold it all together before they break. They long to feel some joy and hope again, feel motivated to care for themselves well and have the energy to reinvest fully in their lives, but often when I first see them just getting through each day can seem a huge challenge.
Whatever my clients’ issues are, I really understand their pain, and what a relief it is for them to find a ‘soft place to land’ and experience some tender care, while they begin to explore their situation. My goal is not just to teach them how to live with, or manage, the daily stress or triggers as, while this provides some short term relief, it doesn’t tackle the underlying issues. My unique programmes enable my clients to understand and break free from the source of the issues, and provide them with a long term, permanent solution that changes the whole course of their lives.
I only work with people who are serious about improving their lives and are prepared to invest a significant of amount of time, energy and money to make that happen. This enables me to fully commit to supporting them and gives me time to share everything I have learned that may be of value to them, and bring my highest and best energy to the table.
To work on yourself is the best thing you can do. Accept that you are not perfect, but you are enough. And then start working on everything that destroys you. Your insecurities, your ego, your dark thoughts. You will see, in the end, you’re going to make peace with yourself. And that’s the greatest thing in the world.
A programme of support created especially for you
With my guidance, you will choose one of the following four programmes depending on your circumstances:
Confusion to Clarity
A 3 month crisis resolution programme
Shelter from the Storm
A 6 month stress management programme
Phoenix Rising
A 6 month trauma recovery programme
Four Seasons of Growth
A 12 month personal growth programme
These robust and innovative programmes of support are tailored to your individual needs to ensure the best possible results for you, and include an in-depth assessment, a number of 1:1 sessions and a high level of nurturing features and personalised care to really support and nourish you from the moment you start working with me.
The programmes enable you to experience the amazing healing power of EFT if you choose, along with other powerful processes, and also include at least one complementary therapy treatment (see below).
I also offer VIP Days and non-residential retreats from time to time – we can discuss these options on our Clarity Call.
You can read more about my unique approach here.
Results you can expect from working with me
I can promise that if you fully engage with one of my programmes, and stick with it, you will see long-lasting and life changing results!
By the end of our work together you can expect to:
- Overcome any fears and barriers that have been preventing you from living your life to the full.
- Feel a sense of peace about the past
- Gain new insights and see new possibilities for yourself
- Understand yourself and your patterns and thoughts, and learn how to shift out of the things that don’t serve you
- Feel more comfortable in your own skin
- Communicate more confidently and assertively
- Enjoy deeper and more meaningful relationships with loved ones
- Experience a sense of wellbeing in your daily life
- Re-connect with old passions, or discover new ones!
- Release anxiety and nagging self-doubt and self-criticism
- Sleep better and feel healthier
- Have higher self-esteem and feel able to take on bigger goals and dreams in your life
- Experience improved concentration and increased energy in your work
Emotional Freedom Technique…
EFT, which stands for Emotional Freedom Technique (also known as ‘tapping’) is an incredibly effective treatment. It quickly reduces the intensity of difficult feelings so they feel manageable rather than overwhelming, in fact such feelings often disappear altogether. in helping fears (including fear of flying), phobias, anxiety, trauma, obsessive-compulsive behaviours, smoking cessation, weight loss and many other problems. Used in conjunction with counselling or coaching, it offers a valuable additional tool and many common phobias and fears can be completely eliminated in a single session.
The Emotional Freedom Technique concept was developed in the US in the 1990’s by Gary Craig, using the principles of Thought Field Therapy (TFT) discovered by Dr. Roger Callahan. EFT roots are in acupuncture, kinesiology and psychology. EFT is spreading very rapidly in the US and in the UK, where the concept is now used in some specialist areas of the National Health Service.
It has been likened to acupuncture, but without needles, and is a method of literally tapping into the body’s energy system to allow emotional issues to be resolved effectively and with astonishing speed. It is a completely safe, non-invasive procedure.
Using EFT involves ‘tuning into’ the issue to be worked on and then tapping on specific acupressure points with your fingers. For example if you still carry anger towards someone who has hurt you in the past, you would be asked to think about them, and notice how you feel. But you do not have to relive past events. You just have to be aware that the negative feeling is there. After having EFT you will still retain the memory of the event you were working on but it will no longer have the emotional intensity that it had before.
Complementary therapy…
There is no doubt that talking one’s problems or challenges through can be tremendously effective, but there are times when we are so worn-out, depleted and fragile that it can be hard to fully engage in counselling or coaching.
Prolonged exposure to stress can lead to an over-production of cortisol and exhaustion of our adrenal glands. In such situations, the most helpful approach is to start with nurturing at a deeper level – working with the senses of touch, smell and sound to help relax and restore a person and prepare them for the demands of talking therapies.
Complementary therapies, and other body-based activities such as yoga, have also been proven to help us prevent the build up of stress in the first place, by helping us relax and release pent-up feelings, so are a very valuable way to keep ourselves emotionally well.
This is why I work with a number of complementary therapists to ensure my clients can have access to a range of relaxing treatments when they visit Sunshine Barn.
The following treatments are available:
- Aromatherapy
- Reflexology
- Indian Head Massage
- Reiki
Clients, parents of our younger clients, or members of the general public are most welcome to book treatments.
Please contact me for further information.
THE NEXT STEP
Are you ready to find out more about working with me? If you are interested in a high touch, specialist programme then let's have a chat . . .
Potential programme clients are always offered a free 30 minute telephone consultation with me, which can be booked by clicking the button below. It’s called a Clarity Call, and it is a chance for you to tell me more about yourself – or your child – and your situation, and it enables me to get a sense of you, or your child, what your needs are and how I can serve you best. If we feel like a good fit, I can explain more about the programmes I offer and you can ask me any questions you may have.